That's why I didn't really lay into him or point out directly to him how often it is a function of patriarchy that men insist that women put all their focus on them. I encouraged him to write his own story if he felt this topic wasn't being adequately addressed. The assumption that if women aren't writing about the plight of men it means that they are unduly trying to "grab attention" is typically the POV of a certain type of guy - one who doesn't really care about anyone but himself, as you've noted.