The brain is plastic. There's almost nothing that we are "hardwired" to do - certainly not anything we can delineate by gender. I already explained how the notion of "men as providers" came into cultural significance. If you want to learn more, use your Google machine.

Everyone should show their partner respect. That's not a gendered activity. Her premise is very clearly that men's recent patriarchal socialization is who they are on a fundamental level, and that's patently not so from a scientific perspective.