The problem with this is, mainstream male socialization doesn't care about that - it cares about "How can I get my needs met, no matter what." It's predicated upon the deeply indoctrinated belief that women are on earth for men's pleasure and enjoyment - something that continues to be messaged in both mainstream media, as well as porn. A lot of that takes place in the subconscious, but it's there nonetheless because it's such a mainstream part of masculine norms and male bonding.

“She is so raped,” he said, laughing. “They raped her quicker than Mike Tyson.” When someone off camera suggested that rape wasn’t funny, he retorted, “Rape isn’t funny—it’s hilarious!” One of the boys from Maryville, Missouri, who assaulted the unconscious fourteen-year-old Daisy Coleman, a subject of the Netflix documentary Audrie and Daisy, told police that in the moment he thought what they were doing was “funny.” The high school lacrosse players from an all-male Catholic prep school in Louisville, Kentucky, who circulated pictures of their assault of sixteen-year-old Savannah Dietrich (a case that gained international attention when their lawyers threatened to sue her for tweeting their names after a slap-on-the-wrist sentence) also described their behavior as “funny.” Again, recall that in order for a morally reprehensible act to be seen as a joke, it has to be considered harmless by the perpetrators; they have to resist identification with the subject, ignore pain. Anything less makes you a pussy.

Orenstein, Peggy. Boys & Sex (p. 33). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.