The statistics on this don't agree with you. Even though more and more women are earning as much or more than their husbands/boyfriends, it still goes against what most men feel comfortable with.
Americans see men as the financial providers, even as women’s contributions grow, a separate report published in 2017 by the Pew Research Center found. Women bring at least half or more of the earnings in almost one-third of cohabiting couples in the U.S., up from just 13% in 1981. “But in most couples, men contribute more of the income, and this aligns with the fact that Americans place a higher value on a man’s role as financial provider,” the authors said."
Men believe that they should be "providers" even more than women think that. This is so deeply ingrained that women who earn significantly more than their husbands end up doing nearly all the housework by way of compensation.
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2019/05/breadwinning-wives-gender-inequality/589237/
"As wives’ economic dependence on their husbands increases, women tend to take on more housework. But the more economically dependent men are on their wives, the less housework they do. Even women with unemployed husbands spend considerably more time on household chores than their spouses. In other words, women’s success in the workplace is penalized at home."
https://www.cnbc.com/2019/11/20/study-men-get-more-stressed-when-their-wives-make-more-money.html
"But a new study from the University of Bath suggests that this trend is impacting male partners’ mental health. The study examined 6,000 American heterosexual married couples over the course of 15 years to see how this shift (towards women earning more) has impacted people’s physical and mental health, life satisfaction and relationships.
They found that men felt the most anxious when they were the sole breadwinner in the family, and the least stressed when their women partners were contributing 40% to the household income. But as women made more money past that point, men become “increasingly uncomfortable” and stressed, according to the findings.
The reason? Traditional social gender norms suggest that men should be the breadwinners in relationships."
