The title and the premise are that patriarchy and men are not one and the same. Going on and on about how feminists are out of line isn't really relevant to that because mainstream masculine norms are a problem, as is patriarchy more generally. Talking about what other people say and do that I haven't said or done is not really good commenting form particularly when you are announcing what they shouldn't be doing and then trying to ding me for noting what I think you should be doing.

I don't really have any more time for this.