There’s a lot here that I resonate with. Poly has a lot of good things about it, but meeting and early dating has a lot of ups and downs, just like in traditional dating and we’ve had some bad experiences with supposedly poly people who hadn’t done a lot of self-work or were still overlaying monogamy constructs. Hiring time with Tamara (and now Lane) has gone from a bandaid until we could find time to meet some (hopefully) quality people to actual relationships that have been consistently fun and painless. Fortunately, we’re in a position to be able to do our poly life like that, and it’s worked out really well for us.

Hmm… I think I feel a story brewing for myself. There’s no standard way to do poly, but I think the way we do it is pretty atypical. More soon and good piece! 😉