Clarissa Pinkola Estes talks about this some. Here she’s using a folktale to demonstrate the way that women are trained to act in ways that go against their own self-interests and even safety. It’s terrible that it takes a lot of women until they are 50 to truly begin to deprogram.

This acquiescence to marrying the monster is actually decided when girls are very young, usually before five years of age. They are taught to not see, and instead to “make pretty” all manner of grotesqueries whether they are lovely or not. This training is why the youngest sister can say, “Hmmm, his beard isn’t really that blue.” This early training to “be nice” causes women to override their intuitions. In that sense, they are actually purposefully taught to submit to the predator. Imagine a wolf mother teaching her young to “be nice” in the face of an angry ferret or a wily diamondback rattler.

Estes, Clarissa Pinkola. Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype (pp. 47-48). Kindle Edition.