This cracked me up - so well said! But yes, glad that you did a trip for yourself the way you wanted to, which as you said, might not preclude it being slightly different in the future - if and when you decide to do that. Men are largely attracted to confident women and if you felt good about yourself in what you were wearing and not wearing, I'm sure that showed. And most importantly, as you so well pointed out, attracting men is not the point of life for women. As a culture, we need to keep reminding ourselves of that.