This hasn't been true for 30 years for most women and every year it gets less true. These are tropes that men pass around to create a scapegoat scenario so they don't have to actually up their dating game - which was notoriously poor when women did depend on men for social and economic status.
A relentless focus on “mating value,” narrowly conceived, also contrasts with an analysis of several data sets reporting what characteristics men and women find more and less important in a partner. These show that for the past seventy-five years, across a number of different countries, the most important attributes in a long-term partner for both women and men have nothing to do with youthful fertility traded for resources.
Fine, Cordelia. Testosterone Rex: Myths of Sex, Science, and Society (p. 75). W. W. Norton & Company. Kindle Edition.
As noted above, both men and women tend to want someone who is a lot like them as far as social assets, but the truth is, in general women care about looks and earning potential a lot less than men do. “Good looks are less important to women — men who score between 5–9 on ‘attractiveness’ actually receive more messages than men who score 10/10,” finds an Oxford University analysis of 150,000 dating profiles. “Both sexes have become less concerned with the income or education level of a potential partner.”
There's plenty out there for men that is healthy and supportive (not as much as there should be but quite a lot), but it requires work, vulnerability, self-inventory, personal growth, challenging your BS - whereas manosphere guys just require you to blame everything on women, which is a whole lot easier and for some, more fun.
There is some mixed messaging out there for men, but guess what, women have been dealing with that for 50 years already. Men are mostly unsure about what women want because they patently refuse to listen to what women say they want in favor of what male dating coaches and manosphere gurus say.
