Elle Beau ❇︎
2 min readApr 15, 2023

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This is a part of patriarchies - which are sadly, at this point, most - but not every culture on earth. Although perhaps not eliminated, it's not a major problem in egalitarian or matrilineal cultures where women are genuinely respected. And we don't need cameras on every corner - we need men to stop turning a blind eye to other guys perpetuating rape culture.

For several societies, it is reported that rape is not only rare but also seen as a shameful act which puts a man's virility and his very humanity in question.

Among the Apache (Farrer, 1999), “Until very recent times, no proper male person would rape a female person (local or enemy), because the rapist lost face not being ‘man enough’ to get a woman on his own.” “An Apache man suffers enormous status loss by forcing himself sexually on anyone: ‘He does not even deserve to be called a man, a human being’” (Farrer, 1997, p. 242). (emphasis mine)

I read something recently about a guy who was bothering a woman at an outdoor cafe. None of the other men who were there (she was the only woman present) said boo to this guy. When she got up to throw something away, he spiked her coffee and the other guys who saw it said nothing. Fortunately, the waitress saw it and warned her. The silence of the men was the type of complicity that this author it speaking against.

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Elle Beau ❇︎
Elle Beau ❇︎

Written by Elle Beau ❇︎

I'm a bitch, I'm a lover, I'm a child, I'm a mother, I'm a sinner, I'm a saint. I do not feel ashamed. I'm your hell, I'm your dream, I'm nothing in between.

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