This is how the status quo hurts us all — by making us believe only one limited choice is possible in love. My husband and I were in our late 40s before we discovered polyamory and all the growth and discovery that it brought to us both as individuals and as a couple. It was a bit of a bumpy road to get to where we are now, but we are both happier than ever before. I’m fully convinced that the boxes that society provides and expects do a disservice to most of us.