This is my beef with porn - it teaches bad sex, and some people (both men and women) have never learned about sex anywhere else. As an older woman, I haven't had good luck with guys in their 20s. They are either fetishists or so clueless that it's just not worth it, but I do have a lover in his early 30s where I've had this sort of experience you describe. Unfortunately, he lives in nearby state and I don't get to see him all that often - particularly now with the pandemic. Maybe that's a part of why it's so sweet when we do get together though.

Good story!