This is my entire point in a nutshell. It matters not at all to the obscenely high numbers of women (and men) who are raped that there is a statistically small number of rapists. Isn't that readily apparent???? We demonstrably live in a rape culture - and the men who don't rape are all just as complicit in that as the actual rapists because they uphold that culture and the norms of masculinity that are reflected in that. This is what this OP was about. Did you somehow miss that point?
STEM is rife with harassment and discrimination, beginning in college classes and going forward into jobs. The purpose of sexual harassment is to "put women in their place" so as long as that is such a gigantic issue and as long as gender indoctrination persists, we're unlikely to ever know how many girls/women would naturally go into STEM.
"In a 2011 study of math gender stereotypes in American elementary school children, two findings emerged. “First, as early as second grade, the children demonstrated the American cultural stereotype that math is for boys on both implicit and explicit measures. Second, elementary school boys identified with math more strongly than did girls on both implicit and self-report measures. The findings suggest that the math-gender stereotype is acquired early and influences emerging math self-concepts prior to ages at which there are actual differences in math achievement.” (emphasis mine) (3)"
So, you are correct that your off-base and rather clueless comments don’t satisfy me, but they are a wonderful object lesson for anyone reading them as to why we need men to lead the way in creating a healthier culture where men actually comprehend and take ownership of the ways that norms of masculinity play into societal problems — rather than blathering on about how “I don’t consider rape to be a widespread issue for most men.”
Aside from the fact that something like 40% of college guys have admitted to researchers to coercing women into sex that they didn’t want — which is rape, and that’s just the ones who admit it — every single woman you know has been exposed to some sort of sexual violence, even if not every single one has been raped. So, pretending that this isn’t a HUGE societal problem that all men are complicit in is further cluelessness. Norms of masculinity and male socialization in this culture drive this entitlement to female bodies. Unless you are working with other men to change those, you are a part of rape culture.
There are cultures where rape really doesn’t exist, so pretending like it’s just kind of inevitable is more opining about things that you actually don’t know much about. Please educate yourself on these topics before saying anything further about them.
I think you’ve got some reading to do…
