This is very similar to how I feel about women in general, although I never had any sexual experience with them until 5 or 6 years ago. I find some women really sexually attractive, but am primarily interested in men. When James and I started seeing Tamara, we were both very hot for her and she definitely gets my engine running, but after about a year of seeing her regularly, I realized in the middle of sex one time that I had feelings for her too. They aren't exactly romantic, but they also kind of are. It's hard to describe, but I remember thinking, "Oh, I love her." Is that because I love her as a person, and enjoy her as a lover, or is it something more? I'm not sure I'll ever know.