This is what long distance truckers do and it's so not gay (according to them). Or, you could just be the kind of partner that your wife wants to be intimate with - ya know, emotionally connected, doing his share of the household chores without being nagged, keeping it fun and. interesting in the bedroom. Nah, too much work... better just complain instead, and blame it all on women. That way there's no effort AND no accountability.