This isn't wrong, but the problem is the structural elements of inequality and power dynamics that were codified in law just a few decades ago are still very much alive and well. It's a bit like expecting Black folks to take a personal and active interests in the problems of poor whites. Yes, in a perfect world we'd all work together to improve the lives of everyone, and we can certainly recognize that poor whites face a lot of disadvantages and institutionalized inequality as well - but it's not remotely on the same level of what Black people have faced and continue to face and expecting them to put any of their energy toward helping whites is not very realistic. We still live in an incredibly androcentric and patriarchal culture - which absolutely hurts men too, but as I said to you in another comment, until a larger plurality of men accept that it's a harmful system and start taking it on, looking to women to somehow make this easier for men is, I believe, unrealistic. They've got their own still very pervasive problems to think about.
Women have been fighting for decades for what they want and need - in the face of continued discrimination and backlash. Nobody has given them much sympathy or assistance or empathy on a societal level, and so I think most women feel that men ought to carve out their own new place in the world themselves - even if it's hard, even if it's uncomfortable, even if there is some resistance to that - because, well, join the club... And, I've heard some men say, well, then you're just driving men to Peterson and Tate, and to that I say, I don't accept that it's my responsibility to rehabilitate those who are bought into a system that oppresses and discriminates against me. Darwin said it is the most adaptable who survive. I don't see young men adapting, and I see them getting left behind in every area of society. They can keep demanding that we go back to the 1950s, but it's not going to happen, and them angrily yelling about how it's unfair and women's fault just drives women further away to go lead their own lives.
It's going to take other men showing them that there are other, better options than going back to the 1950s, I think. The larger culture has to support that but we can't do it for you guys. I know a whole lot of men who absolutely lost their shit about the Gillette ad. To me, that was a great example of society trying to embrace supporting and encouraging men to become leaders in change. Most men absolutely hated it and were insulted by it. Until that changes, I don't think we can help you much.
