This was me in the beginning as well. I was so eager to be enmeshed in this new relationship style that there were times I didn't pay attention to red flags or let things slide because of it. Now, it's a huge deal-breaker. One of the central elements of polyamory as far as I'm concerned is integrity and the openness that comes from honesty. If someone isn't up for that part, they aren't a good match for me.