Those things are all caused by a patriarchal dominance hierarchy system. Lots of men may have been traumatized by individual women acting in dysfunctional ways, but unlike the reverse, none of those are socially condoned norms of femininity. Mainstream norms for being "a real man" include stoicism, dominance, and control of women. Because of this, men commit 90% of violence - against both men and women. Men commit 90% of rapes - against both women and men. Nearly all of the type of domestic violence that is about controlling the other person is commited by men against women. Yes, it's a dominance hierarchy system that encourages bullying, and racism, and homophobia, and mean girls but it's still in the context of a patriarchal paradigm.

We need to talk about what's really going on and acknowledge the ways that many mainstream masculine norms drive dysfunction in our culture - hurting most men in the process, as well as everyone else. These same norms about self-sufficiency, and always being in control drive the disregard for any men who seem to be "failing" at them - by being homeless, or having mental illness, etc.

The problem is the patriarchal system, as well as the people who desperately want to cling to it (some of whom are women, but mostly it is everyday men). We need a more caring, more egalitarian, more connected culture - but the elites don't want that, because then they wouldn't be elite any more, and they wouldn't be able to make money off the backs of the every day folks in the extreme way that they do now. So, any time there is some progress toward equality, they redirect the everyday guy to how feminism is the real evil (not the fact that the minimum wage hasn't kept up with inflation, etc.).

Everyday men keep buying into this red herring, but they do so at their own expense and peril.