Trying to control someone and limit their choices is classic abuser behavior.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/coercive-control#definition

"Coercive control is a form of domestic abuse, or intimate partner violence. It describes a pattern of behaviors a perpetrator uses to gain control and power by eroding a person’s autonomy and self-esteem. This can include acts of intimidation, threats, and humiliation."