We're all deeply, deeply indoctrinated into monogamy mindset and even if we want to move away from that, it does take a lot of thought and effort. Having to create your own boundaries and relationships is absolutely a lot of work and I'm certainly not judging you in any way because kids, work, and other obligations take up a lot of bandwidth and we're trying to enter territory that is new to most people who grew up in conventional families.

Getting to the point where it was fine to see my partner love (and not just have sex with) someone else was no big deal for me for whatever reason, but it took him more time and more deprogramming from old norms for him to reach the same place. And, we don't see our loves all that often, and that probably helps keep it less complicated as well. We're no longer actively trying to meet or get together with anyone new, and while I'd really like to have another male partner again, I don't see that as ever being in the cards bar some remarkable fluke. Fortunately, like you, I'm deeply happy and satisfied with the man I share my life with, and the rest is gravy.

But, this does give me a potential story idea about how non-monogamy can cool, so thanks for that.