We're not going to wait around while you all get your shit together and just keep being raped and discriminated against and killed because it's nicer and easier for you all to deal with your BS if we don't complain about our oppression. That's not what MLK did, and it's not what I am going to do either. Read this reframe of an MLK speech to make it about gender and see just how out of touch with history (and reality) your position truly is.
I don't demonize men - I talk about the problems with the social system and the way that masculinity is constructed in our culture(s). If even that is way too defensive making - which it very clearly is based on the huge uptick in white nationalism and misogyny - that's on the rest of you guys to not just sit back and cluck your tongues, but to get involved in calling that shit out.
A Cambridge study had this to say:
"Our research suggests that some men will avoid hearing messages from women advocating for gender equity. However, these same men are open to that message when it is delivered by a man. For this reason, one of the most important contributions that men can make to advance gender equity is to confront discrimination and champion messages about gender equity with other men.
Research in social psychology and political science confirms that those who are not targets of discrimination often can be more successful when addressing it. In laboratory experiments, men who confront gender discrimination were more likely to change their behavior without facing backlash (Dodd et al. Reference Dodd, Giuliano, Boutell and Moran2001). Similarly, Munger (Reference Munger2017) found that high-status whites were most successfully able to reduce racist expressions in online spaces. Both strains of research demonstrate that allies have an ability to confront inequity without facing negative social costs. Furthermore, this work suggests that to oppose prejudice, discrimination, and inequity, we must change social norms around these issues and practices."
You guys who are making this women's (and Black people's) fault for not being more passive and conciliatory are complicit. Turn your attention where it belongs - on the guys who need to be clearly shown by other men that this kind of heteronormative white nationalist misogyny is not acceptable.
