What if a woman doesn't care about being feminine because that's not an expression of who she really is inside? And why is it a woman's job to make you feel powerful? Go work on yourself so that you don't rely on someone else to make you feel that way and aren't threatened by someone who has done that work for herself.

Good lord, you've just ordered up the latest version of a Stepford Wife, all to suit your needs and stroke your insecurities. Newsflash - women don't exist for you; not for your pleasure or your enjoyment or your ideas about who she ought to be and what she ought to do. You could reasonably say "this is what I'm looking for in a woman" but it is absolutely in no way what a woman "should" be — because the only person who has any say in that is the woman.