What kind of love is that if that husband will only care for his wife if she keeps some particular body metric? Not real love, as far as I can tell. And what kind of boyfriends who clearly found you attractive enough to date in the first place? Sigh...

Most men have no idea just how pervasive this cultural narrative is that women only exist to be pleasing to men, because it's largely subconscious, but it's also everywhere and deeply in our collective psyches. Good for you for finding your way out of that!