What you are completely failing to take into account is that the larger dynamic matters infinitely more than your personal experience. If treating your wife like a second class citizens works for your relationship, good for you. If you've suffered no ill effects of living in a dominance hierarchy, good for you - but the fact of the matter is the larger societal dynamic is larger than you. You aren't the center of the known universe. There are millions of men for whom this system doesn't work well - demonstrably so. You insisting that this can't possibly be true because it's fine for you is a special sort of narcissistic delusion.