What you describe about finally meeting a woman you wanted to be sexual with in the same way that you want men is how I felt when I first met Tamara. Two years in, and I still feel that way about her. I also understand that feeling of community that can come from group sex. James and I only see other people together and although we dated a couple for a while and have played with some others, we really find that we like the intimacy of three the best. For us, it’s the sweet spot.