Which is an actual narcissitic impulse and not an imagined one.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this BS. I get a bit of it as a polyamorous woman - that I'm self-absorbed and greedy, but my safety is not really in jeopardy. Most people write to process their experiences, to help others understand what they are experiencing, to connect with like-minded people, etc. Those who insist on not understanding that have an agenda that involves you shutting up. 😥