Why are you talking about whales? That has nothing whatsoever to do with this topic! They are not human beings or even closely related to human beings and their social organization is irrelevant. We live in a patriarchy where the vast majority of children are conceived during relationships, something that our culture is adamant is the only right way.
What you and she are both describing is a function of patriarchy, something that has existed for less than 3% of human history. Of course, some men want to roam, so do some women. Your assertion that men are just not biologically equipped to care for children is both false and misandric. Millions of American men are equal or even primary caretakers for their children. Millions of women have no interest in children and are ill equipped to care for them. Imagining that women naturally are best with children is a story right out of patriarchy meant to relegate women to that role and that role alone. Beyond breastfeeding, women are no better equipped than men to care for children. And you know that because you are one of those caregiving men.
And if a man thrives because he has abandoned his offspring I'm not going to celebrate that and say, "Oh well, that's just nature" because it's not. If men want to roam, they shouldn't father children. WTF is even wrong with you suggesting that this is some sort of appropriate way to treat children?!
Anthropologists all agree that hunter-gatherer men spend way more time than men in Western cultures (which are all patriarchies or have emerged from patriarchies) with their children. Because they have a different culture that is not built around a dominance-based hierarchy like we do. You cannot assail what I've reported from scientific research with a vague assertion that sometimes anthropologists get it wrong. If you can't disprove the specifics of what I've said, then either admit that you got it wrong or keep your mouth shut. I noticed you haven't responded to the other answer I gave you about how alloparenting is what allowed humans to make it out of the Pleistocene. It may not fit your preconceived ideas, but those are also uneducated ideas.
This sort of lame, reflexive argumentativeness is why I finally blocked that woman. She adds nothing to the discussion, doesn't present another view that stands up to any scrutiny, and is largely just agitating for its own sake. I think you're next because you aren't all that different.
