Why are you trying to "educate" me about this? It's unbelievably insulting and condescending. I was in the trenches for 20 years with a profoundly disabled and difficult autistic child before you even realized you were autistic. Step off, FFS! You are SO out of line.

It really is a shame that the people who are the shittiest to the parents of autistic people are so called "high functioning" autistics. I've never felt less compassion, less understanding, and more rudeness than from that demographic. It's really disgusting. You represent a tiny fraction of autistic people and you very clearly have no inkling what the vast majority of autistics are like, the care they require, or what they need to be supported and thrive.

My life revolves 24/7 around my son's needs and care, which he could not survive without. I have spent decades learning how to communicate with him on his terms. There is little respite for me or my husband and there will be none until we die. We are fortunate that we can afford to fund his life and care after we are gone and that we know someone who loves him to facilitate that. That's not a common reality. Most people that profoundly disabled end up in institutions.

Your failure to listen to where we are coming from is deeply unkind and absurdly ableist. It's also unbelievably condescending and I don't have any more time to spend on such treatment or behavior.

Go back to your job and your largely mainstream life - something that most autistic people will never know. Your cluelessness towards those who do not have your privileges is duly noted.