Why exactly do you think I have a different set of rules when I quite clearly said things like this: "Your partner does not belong to you like a possession and he or she does not have an obligation to manage all of your insecurities and fears for you. She or he does not need to alter everything about their life just to make you feel comfortable."

You might want to try to more deeply understand what I've actually said rather than projecting your baggage onto me. There may indeed be women who try to change or control their men, but I've given zero indication that I condone that. Pay better attention next time.