WTF does that even mean?? Rape is a byproduct of domination based social systems. There's nothing "organic" about it. 🙄 And no, patriarchy emerged due to a series of violent invasions that decimated the egalitarian cultures they overran and transformed. There’s nothing organic about that either.
With the appearance of these invaders on the prehistoric horizon — and not, as is sometimes said, with men’s gradual discovery that they too played a part in procreation — the Goddess, and women, were reduced to male consorts or concubines. Gradually male dominance, warfare, and the enslavement of women and of gentler, more “effeminate” men became the norm.
Eisler, Riane. The Chalice and the Blade (p. 90). HarperCollins. Kindle Edition.
And not believing in something doesn't mean that it doesn't exist or have relevance. Patriarchy only arose about 6k years ago - after 97% of human history had already taken place in a very, very different way.
Matrilineal cultures - of which there were thousands prior to patriarchy - are all about balance and honoring the value of both men and women. Domination is an element of a Might Makes Right hierarchy system - something that was not common until just a few thousand years ago and that has never existed as anything but a male dominated dynamic.
And the rest of this sounds like you were drinking or high when you wrote it. Gender binaries are not in the slightest bit necessary for connecting to yourself and others - as already pointed out - most indigenous cultures had/have 3 or 5 genders. There are over 1.2 million non-binary people in America alone. If you don't know who you are without an imaginary gender binary, that's a YOU problem.
How can we possibly have homogeneity in a world where individuals are so, so vastly different from each other? Nobody is saying you shouldn't be a man - but go be an expression of that that works for you and is native to you - rather than an expression of that that other people invented a couple hundred years ago and policed you into being via behavioral conditioning.
"I'm tough and independent and I only behave in ways that they allow for people like me" is the mantra of too many men, and it's both ridiculous and sad. I haven't argued against theism - I've argued against a god that is killing men and making them miserable, that is driving rape and violence, against both women and men, and that goes against fundamental aspects of what we know human beings need to be happy and thrive.
I'm very clear that I'm a woman. I'm not genderless or even androgynous - but I damn sure express that however I wish that is authentic to me and not by some restrictive anarchronist notions of what I "should" be like, or should do. I don't need to take my sense of self from being "not a boy" because I know who I actually am - someone with a lot of Yin qualities but also with a lot of Yang ones in a blend that is unique to me.
Of course biology has an impact, but in some cultures, your "gender" is determined by the work that you choose to do, and not by what's in your pants. There is no binary except as you wish to cling to it for your own purposes. Even sex isn't a strict binary, and even in the animal kingdom, attributes and roles vary due to variety of factors.
The old assumption that sexual selection has created near-universal sex roles—males mostly like this, females mostly like that—has been replaced with growing recognition of the diversity of courtship and parental roles both across and within species. This across-species variability means that there is no universal template for how genetic and hormonal components of sex play out to affect brain and behavior—
Sexual selection hasn’t locked such roles into sex-linked genes and hormones, but allows for individuals to be profoundly influenced by their social, material, physical, (and in our own case) economic, cultural, and political circumstances.
Fine, Cordelia. Testosterone Rex: Myths of Sex, Science, and Society (p. 62). W. W. Norton & Company. Kindle Edition.
Patriarchy is predicated on men and women being inherently different animals, for the purposes of justifying the marginalization and control of one half of the species - but we aren't inherently different animals at all. We're remarkably alike across a vast continuum of individual differences. The impulse to define yourself by what you're not is a common one, but not a particularly functional one. Go figure out what kind of man you are and stop worrying about which box you fit in.
