Yep, and I'm noticing that a lot of guys are sure that women want an extremely handsome high earner, but over and over again that isn't what women say they want. Still, many men don't believe it because they are so bought into the patriarchal narrative and that's what they think is impressive, so they assume that women do too. I also think that clinging to these beliefs gives them a scapegoat when their sense of egalitarianism and their personality doesn't meet a woman's standards, he can pretend that it's not really his fault, it's that he wasn't handsome and rich enough. 🙄