Yes, it was. And I know you know all that about girls and women and that you don't remotely minimize it. It's just that there is so, so much rhetoric out there that white men are the true victims of society and that it's all women's fault that men are lonely. I wanted to make it clear to others (not you because you already know it) that this is a problematic narrative.

And I apologize for kind of tromping on your specific traumatic experience. That was not my intention. It's just that every woman I know has these - multiple times over at the hands of boys and men since childhood. And, as already noted, it's a part of mainstream masculine norms to do this. Women/girls may do this at times, and I'm sorry that nobody supported you when they did, but these are not institutionalized feminine norms and in fact are yet another product of patriarchy and the abuse that women and girls have suffered because of it. This is not to minimize what happened to you, and I'm sorry if that's how it came off that way.