Yes to all of this! I was just rereading a story I'd written about this same thing awhile back and in it I reference another one of your stories about the male gaze where you ask, "Can I express my sexuality without inviting danger?" Sadly, that is still a very pertinent question.

I was rereading that story searching for this quote, which is one of my all-time favorites"

“No one’s openness with their sexuality, online or in real life, should be confused with an undiscerning invitation for sexual advances.” Queen Jayne Renault

It's high time that men (and everyone) learns that. Female sexuality does not just exist for male enjoyment. Women are not on earth simply for their pleasure and gratification. Women exist as individual human beings and should be treated as such.