You are still hung up on patriarchy meaning male-dominated, and that's not what it means (or not only what it means) by sociological metrics. Read these. I don't have time to explain it all to you in depth.
"Those with more power took what they wanted, and those who did not have the power to resist fell under their control. This applied not only to women but also to weaker, poorer, men as well and a highly stratified class system emerges for the first time in human history. In fact, social stratification is the central element of patriarchy."
From 300-hectare settlements in China’s Shandong Province that predate the earliest royal dynasties by 1000 years, to enormous ceremonial centers of the Maya which also predate the rise of the kings by 1000 years, we have evidence of many large communities with no evidence of central government or top-down hierarchy.
Agriculture also contributes to the rise of male-led dominance hierarchies but is not the sole reason, and in many places, agriculture existed for thousands of years without them. Ancient people traveled extensively - much further than the average person does today. Saying that somebody is a "pre-contact" society is essentially meaningless in this context for that reason.
"We know of many, many egalitarian, leaderless towns and even cities in the ancient world — where even if there was a mayor or a king, he had little actual authority outside of his line of sight. If humans had always fought each other for dominance, how exactly would those have come about in an atmosphere of extreme personal autonomy and negligible administrative hierarchy? For me, it doesn’t add up. It makes a lot more sense that well into the early part of the agricultural revolution, the prevailing social dynamics of our forager ancestors continued, even into towns and cities — until they were eventually replaced by patriarchal dominance hierarchies about 5k years ago."
"In addition, there is all sorts of evidence of far-flung gift exchanges. Some of it may have been trade/barter, but much of it seems to just be a way to build relationships. In the ancient past, many people regularly traveled great distances, much further than the average person today — often for the purpose of building these types of bonds."
