You are welcome to identify yourself in whatever way feels good to you, but I don't understand how it is dehumanizing to embrace that gender is not a binary even if you feel that sex is. If a person has the chromosomes, and genitals and hormones of both male and female, then who decides which one of those two things they are - you? I challenge you to present something supporting your assertion that most intersex people want to be a part of this binary because a lot of harm has been done to intersex people in the name of that, and I see no evidence that it is considered desirable by them. Trying to "normalize" people and force them to really be only one gender when they aren't is widely considered a human rights violation (the exact opposite of what you are asserting).
"People often assume that the world is divided neatly into two groups of people, male and female, and that everyone’s biological and genetic characteristics fit into one of these two categories.
But this is not always the case. There are millions of people around the world who have sexual characteristics that do not fit typical binary notions of male or female bodies. Many, though not all, of these people identify as intersex.
Intersex is an umbrella term used to describe a wide range of natural variations that affect genitals, gonads, hormones, chromosomes or reproductive organs. Sometimes these characteristics are visible at birth, sometimes they appear at puberty, and sometimes they are not physically apparent at all."
Then there is the fact that reproduction is hardly the be all and end all of anything related to this. Being able to sexually reproduce is not what makes you a woman or a man. Talk about dehumanizing! I had a hysterectomy several years ago. Does that mean I am no longer a woman?
Clearly this has a deep emotional charge for you, but why? What does it matter if there are more than two genders. Most indigenous cultures have somewhere between 3 and 5. How does it harm you or even effect you in any way for that to be embraced? Edit: Particularly in the context of this OP, which is in the way that people would like to be addressed? Are you actually proposing to decide for intersex people (or any people) which pronouns they should adopt? More dehumanization, and for no actual good reason.
