You don't have to convince me. I write all the time about the ways that patriarchy harms men and robs them of full humanity, the ways that it drives loneliness and suicide in men, etc. I don't believe I need a shift in thinking one bit. Recognizing that this is an issue doesn't obligate me to put my entire focus there, however. This is itself a function of patriarchy, where any time a woman turns her focus to herself rather than keeping it on the needs and issues of men, where it belongs, she gets called out and penalized. If you want to be favor of a better world for all, I recommend that you cease doing that.

"They may nevertheless perceive powerful women who do not wield their power in service of men’s interests as abrasive and threatening. For that reason among others, a misogynist social environment may be partly the result of more or less well-intentioned people acting out of disavowed emotions, or exhibiting flashes of aggression that are not consciously experienced. And indeed, such aggression may be acted out partly as a substitute for feeling it: the expression “acting out” is suggestive in this context."

Manne, Kate. Down Girl (p. 61). Oxford University Press. Kindle Edition.