You keep mischaracterizing what I said and not paying attention to the details that I've not only given you, but given you multiple times. That's not discussing in good faith and it's extremely out of line!

I've never once said that problematic women don't exist or that men have nothing that they suffer (in fact, I've said the opposite multiple times). I've never once said anything remotely like that it's a crime to be born male. I've spoken repeatedly about the social system and the culture of masculinity - not men as individuals except as they have the obligation to challenge and improve those two things. Why are you not able to hear that? I'm guessing it's because you don't want to for some reason. You don't get to abdicate responsibility for norms that existed before you were born anymore than I get to do that with racism as a white person. You are either challenging harmful norms or you are allowing for them to continue, either actively or passively - and so is everyone. If you don't accept that, then you are a part of the problem.

I've said all along that we all need to do better, and that we all have to do our part to confront the ills in this social system. It's just that as a culturally dominant demographic and as people who are most involved in upholding the culture of masculinity, men have a unique obligation to stand up to that because that is what drives violence, including sexual violence, against both women and men - something that I've said about 5 times at least.

Your personal experiences count, but they are not the sum total of the picture. You reality is not necessarily the larger reality. Forty years of research from the US, Canada, the UK, and Mexico says that you are largely wrong about nearly all of this, including that most women want to control men with sex and that they'll dump a man as soon as a richer taller one comes along. 🙄 Newsflash - if that's what you think of women, they aren't going to be too excited to spend time with you because the level of intrinsic disrespect and dislike of women is just off the charts and it's a huge turn off. Go to the mall or any large group of humans and notice at all the short, not rich, not all that handsome guys who have partners for a reality check.

And if so many men are already standing up to patriarchy, then why do we still live in a culture where an American is raped every 68 seconds and little girls start getting harassed on the street when they are 9 or 10 years old? Why did so many men lose their minds over the Gillette ad? Why is the manosphere growing at an alarming rate and becoming more violent.? Why are so many women still not paid the same for equal work even though it's illegal not to? Why is there still such a huge authority gap where women even at the tops of business and government still have to fight to be taken seriously? Why was there such a massive backlash to finding out via the #MeToo movement that nearly all women have experience with sexual violence?

If most men are already trying to dismantle patriarchy, why did 1000 men from 3 countries report that what is expected of them as a man is traditional patriarchal norms? Yes, I already stipulated that some men are resisting those, but they all reported that they continue to feel social pressure to uphold them. Why did the American Psychological Association recently issue new guidelines for assisting boys and men related to the negative effects they suffer in a patriarchal culture?

We shouldn't have any of that going on if most men were actually actively confronting patriarchy. Some men are to be sure, but not most - not by a long shot. Don't be so absurd... it's insulting to all the women and men who suffer everyday because of this social system and it's shooting your own interests in the foot.

Since you won't accept that I've been studying this topic for years from a sociological perspective and since you won't listen to what I actually say, and in fact often tell me I'm saying the opposite from what I actually did, and since you are refusing to accept the very clear context in which I said that I don't care if men are resentful about having to grapple with the part they play in maintaining the patriarchy, I'm going to just stop here and ignore any future messages. You clearly aren't capable of having a rational discussion.

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