You said this, "Telling us we have a high suicide rate because we don’t cry enough and show our emotions isn’t helpful, because that’s what women seem to need." I am simply responding to that - pointing out that how you feel around this topic is not borne out by actual research - much of it done by men, which says that not allowing men to have normal human emotions and close male relationships and policing them into a small box of acceptable maleness is hurting and killing men.

Your story is about how men need more competition, more "real" masculinity - which is in stark contrast to femininity rather than recognizing that all humans are a combination of Yin and Yang traits and that not allowing men to be full human beings who allow for their Yin aspects is a huge part of what is leading to male isolation, suicide, depression, and substance abuse.

People are different because they are all individuals, but there is no evidence whatsoever that the binary of gender is anything other than a cultural construct. We know this in large part because it varies from culture to culture and at different periods of time. And, since we've started allowing a bit more gender latitude we have women phycisists, astronauts, welders, snipers, etc. And we have men who are nurses, and elementary school teachers, and social workers. Men and women are not inherently different except as they are forced to be by the culture. Shoving guys into "the Man Box" is literally killing them.

If who you naturally are is further along the Yang part of the spectrum, great - have at it and enjoy, but don't make that decision for other men because telling guys how it's acceptable (and not acceptable) for them to be is the essence of what it means to be toxic.