You're right that no one strategy is going to work for every person, but also that making someone feel heard and free while they laugh a lot is a pretty good recipe. I honestly believe these guys who refuse to listen to women want a scapegoat. That way, it's all women's fault that they can't get a date, and not theirs. They don't have to work on their social skills, or their listening skills. They don't have to learn to dress in a way that flatters their body type. They can expend zero effort and still blame it all on women. Easy peasy!